Why We Quit Making New Year’s Resolutions

Both Mr. FE and I have failed miserably at keeping New Year’s resolutions, and we now understand that these frivolous attempts at making New Year’s resolutions are a complete waste of our time and energy.

Could it be that we are just a couple of flunkies who would much rather admit defeat and submit to our failures? Absolutely not, I tell you!

So why come forth now only a mere eleven days into the new year you may ask? The answer is simple. We’ve been enlightened! We’ve made an astute realization that we needed to look back, not forward, in order to achieve our goals and make peace with what works for us.

For us, it was simple. We required a map. A guide. A lifescript to behold. A way for us to wake up in the morning, face the day, and know that we have a chance to prove ourselves and feel confident that our mission will be accomplished. We wanted a plan that would kick butt. Specifically, Escapadian butt!

We Needed to Define Our Goal

When Mr. FE and I had our epiphany and decided that we wanted to embark upon a path to achieve F.I.R.E (Financial Independence, Retire Early), we needed to first understand exactly what financial independence meant to us. We knew it was important to feel comfortable in the footsteps we were about to lay forward. Without a defined goal, it would have been all too easy to get lost in the process, thus, making this the most important step in order for us to solidify our wants and desires.

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Stuff we shouldn’t eat!

Creating Baby Steps is Key

We knew that in order to achieve the dream of being financially independent, that we would need to create a detailed plan. A step-by-step guide ensuring that if our plan was strategically followed, failure was not an option. An achievable set of baby steps so we could see the progress before our very eyes. Without a plan, we would have been directionless, and quite possibly overwhelmed with the seemingly daunting task we were about to face.

Devoting Time is a Must

We realized that most goals, especially financial, are not achieved overnight. Therefore, we understood the importance of routine dedication. A renewal or rebirth of sorts. Being able to analyze and reassess our plan of action and review any necessary improvements that may have to be made. A chance to regroup and put our heads together to smooth out any kinks. To be able to remind ourselves of the reason why we set out on this long journey in the first place, and to solidify our path moving forward. We feared that the absence of time devoted may have had a detrimental effect, and potentially lead us to failure.

Embrace the Occasional Failure

When we first put forth our mission to achieve F.I.R.E, we knew that we were about to endure a seemingly insurmountable challenge, and despite our best intentions and well thought out master plan, we understood that life is not a perfect path , and that sometimes even the best intentions can lead us astray.  It’s a constant challenge we face in our quest to stare down consumerism and avoid everyday temptations. We soon realized that it was imperative to make peace with the fact that failures may occur.

To quote the hilarious Lily Tomlin-“The road to success is always under construction”

So this year when Mr. FE and I had made a New Year’s resolution to get healthier, but instead found ourselves inhaling a large, cheesy, gooey, hot pizza loaded with extra pepperoni, mushrooms, peppers, and onions – followed by an enormous slice of cherry pie. We have decided to officially wave the white flag on New Year’s resolutions and get moving on that master plan!

Have you ever made a New Year’s resolution? If so, was it a success?

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17 thoughts on “Why We Quit Making New Year’s Resolutions

  1. Love this post! I do make resolutions but they’re more like lots of baby steps instead of a big goal so this year I want to take 5,000 steps and drink a litre of water a day in January. Once I do that I’ll probably add on working out in February, etc. I also check in with myself a lot (Yay blogging) to keep myself on track so my resolutions have been much easier to keep than in the past when I’d start off great and then totally forget about them

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  2. We gave up on resolutions and shifted to trying to build our “habit” muscles this year. It gives us a broader and hopefully more of a life long focus on just a few things that are really important to us. I think the occasional failure is what actually makes you stronger…if you can come back to what you are working on and not simply abandon it. Nice post!

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  3. Yeah, naaaa, I don’t even bother with NY resolutions at all. If it’s such a great idea then why wait, do it now. I don’t think I’ve ever met anyone who made a NY reso and stuck to it. Unfortunately, most of them are made whilst under the influence so don’t really count anyway. It sounds like you guys have your 2017 goals sussed so onward and upwards I say…..

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  4. Wow, that picture is making this pregnant lady crave a sugary snack!

    I think most people see resolutions as involving some drastic change in your daily behaviors. But they don’t have to be so restrictive. I try to see the New Year as a chance to set new goals for yourself, a chance to start fresh. That’s why I’m trying to inspire myself to reach new milestones in our journey to financial semi-independence, instead of trying to change myself “for the better.”

    Ultimately, I agree that resolutions are pointless if you know you’re not going to stick with them.

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    1. I say indulge where you have a great excuse! 🙂

      Exactly our point. Drastic changes very rarely last long-term for most of us. We do agree, however, that New Year’s may be very effective in motivating one to implement new goals and changes in their lives.

      You set up some fantastic goals this year! 🙂

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  5. I’m not big on resolutions, but I have big money plans this year. I hope that counts. I intend to finish perfecting the skill to double my pay and then find a gig in that skill and then systematically destroy my debts, invest and save.

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  6. I loved this 🙂 I think where most people go wrong is to just set a goal without a specific plan. You have to be very, very specific in how you are going to achieve that goal, and set up daily habits to help you achieve that. Easier said than done though!

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    1. Glad you enjoyed reading it and welcome to our blog!

      Setting smaller, more achievable goals has always been and will continue to be what works best for us. And yes, we agree…much “easier said than done”! 🙂

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  7. We aren’t really big on New Year’s resolutions, we haven’t been good at sticking to them. It’s much better for things we make a life changing decision to do, else we just slip back.

    Good luck with any changes you do decide to do.

    Tristan

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